((((Mermaid))))

We need chocolate and a good chat.

I just read your post about your MIL and I have something to run by you.
Both you and I have been doing this MLCBS for quite some time now, and I am trying to figure something out.

I have had a much easier time forgiving my Husband then my MIL.

I thought it would be the other way around since he was the one who actually did the betrayal.

For my MIL I feel only anger because she was so supportive of my Husband and his choices. It was as if the past 20 odd years of me being her only DIL and the only one to give her Grandchildren that she would have had some compassion for me.

I know I have mentioned this over and over and I probably need to just let it go, but I really am very angry.
I feel betrayed by my H's side of the family.

I really did try to be a good DIL.
I took care of my FIL when he was ill, and I even helped her with all of the medical things when he was sick.

Throughout the years I was the one to organize all of the holidays and parties. I arranged the vacations and visits. I was the one who bought their gifts and made sure no anniversary or Mothers Day or Fathers Day was ever forgotten.

I could list all of the things I have done throughout the years for my inlaws and their extended family, not that it really matters anymore.

My children have been totally ignored. Their birthdays forgotten. Christmas came and went without a word from anyone.

I don't understand and as much as I understand MLC and what my Husband has put me through, the rejection of all of the others leaves me with so many unanswered questions.


I do not understand how all of these peole can turn their backs on me when they have known me for over 2 decades and we were a part of their every day lives. My FIL had 10 siblings, my MIL has 6 for crying out loud, tons of cousins, aunts, uncles etc and not one of them has ever called.

So tell me Mermaid, my secret chocolate buddy, help me to try and make sense of something that doesn't make sense.

(((((((Faith)))))))

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.