Lis, It's hard now that you imagine things in your head. I know that my H didn't answer his phone when he was with OW. So even now, when he doesn't answer, I get this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach... Sometimes I actually shake.
You just need time to adjust to the news of OW. Don't sweat not checking in on anyone. Do for you right now.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track