Emotional affair with boyfriend from 4th grade?

[Struggling_Husba]

Thanks everybody. The emotional support from fellow LBS's is really great and helps me get through the day.

I have to agree with brandnewday that is is stunning how similar our stories are. Before all of this happened, I firmly believed that all of our relationships and lives were so unique that our marital problems would also be somewhat unique. Instead, we see over and over again that the MLCers follow a very rigidly defined cultural script. It's just plain stunning.

Just the other day on another MLC thread, one of the frequent posters was saying something about how if your MLCer has not yet had an affair, just wait, because it's part of the script. Sure enough, just a day or so later, I was confronted with the evidence of my W's emotional involvement with this fantasy man from her childhood.

I will try to spend some time on all of your threads to try to give back for what you have given me. I fear I have little wisdom, but I do have a lot of empathy, and sometimes that is better than wisdom.

Would love to hear more thoughts on detaching, patience, and taking care of ourselves. Thanks.

-SH