I know from experience it takes time to get over the OP...my H had a hard time of it....it took probably a good year or more for him to get to the point that he could say it really wasn't love....and to admit that it was a HUGE mistake....some parts he still holds onto....like what a nice person she was....how she really "helped" him when he was ready to die (read deep depression with some suicidal thoughts)....I guess I have to be thankful for some of her....
It is hard not to think of her...and still sometimes I have questions....occasionally I will come out and ask...he is very good now about providing answers for me....this makes me feel less like asking about her....
btw....the affair has been over for 2 years and 4 months!....it runs deep....but we are doing so much better now then even a year ago when he returned home!!!
He spent over a year on his own...without OW in his life before he returned to me....I think this was good....for both of us
