Piecing Advice

[Rob1231]

Hey SD, gonna play Devil's Advocate for you for a sec...

Yes, I do feel like it's my turn, and I sort of resent H for being all comfortable...

So, how would you LIKE for him to be feeling and acting? Fired up about his recommitment to the M? Guilty? Dedicated to his own personal growth spurt?

...when he caused all this commotion in the first place.

He did? All by himself? I believe that, by definition, every sitch here was co-created by both parties in the relationship, regardless of which partner's problems came to a head first (in the form of a MLC, affair, or whatever.)