I can tell you that for along time I saw NO HOPE in my situation....at times I felt like giving up what HOPE I had....I am glad now that I didn't.....it takes time....a lot of time....for the MLC'er to figure things out....it is hard to tell what they really think about and what they just say they think about....I do know that my H has disclosed that he WAS NOT happy when he was gone....that he felt extreme guilt over the pain he was causing but he was caught in a mixture of emotions that he needed to sort out....ON HIS OWN
All I wanted was a second chance....in the beginning I didn't understand why I would have to wait so long for that chance....now I totally understand....and someday you will too...no matter what the outcome is....and you will handle things much differently then you would if given that chance now.....as cruel as it sounds and feels it really is best that the MLC'er stays away and works on themself....while the LBS's really really take the time to better themself as well...then when and if a reuniting takes place both are stronger and better able to work things out in a more positive way....
I learned so much about myself during this time....it was the first time in my life that I didn't live with my parents or my husband....It was me and the kids against the world....and we did it....this made me feel so much better then if H would have come home just because I NEEDED him to....I excepted him back because I WANTED to....this makes a huge difference...
