I am really starting this just so I maintain my presence here. I am NOT gone for good, but rather just taking time to branch out and get some things done in my life that I have put off the entire time of the trauma despite my GAL efforts.
I am still lurking and will jump in if needed.
I hope you all had the best V-day possible. I know it can be a rough time. Trust me, last year's was possibly the worst day of this whole ordeal beyond the initial bomb day.
This year was a whole different story. I decided to totally surprise my W and get her original diamond from her engagement ring re-set into a pendant. She wanted to do this back when we replaced her ring but for some reason (money) we didn't do it. I found the ring in her jewelry box and got a custom mounting made for it.
I was REALLY nervous that she would either not like it, or hate that I spent the money but neither was the case. She actually cried she was so happy. She told me later in the middle of (still wearing the necklace and nothing else) that it was things like that, me thinking of the right thing to get her, that really let her know how much I love her...and then she gave me the rare ILY and said she didn't say it nearly enough (hey, 2 times a year, but who's counting, lol).
Needless to say, it was a REALLY good day/night so I am here to tell you, it CAN get better, it really can.
I wish ALL of you the same luck I think I have had.
I'm glad to hear things are going well. It's nice she's appreciating these things and you're "going with the flow" (our water metaphors!), and doing things from the heart.
The other day while driving in the car I heard something on the radio about some a couple in their 90's who have been married 70 something years and were celebrating their anniversary. They asked the woman what the secret is to a good long marriage and her simple answer was so true: "You have to overlook a lot of things."
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Great update - and what a difference a year can make. Like you, I continue to lurk and respond, but prefer to spend my time and focus on the great opportunity I have been afforded.
We're (W and I) are flat broke right now until we close on the "old" house later next week so V-day was very lean. I gave her cards, some chocolates, and I made a "coupon" book of "Honey-Do's" she can redeem all year long.
I simply got a card from her that really was all I needed and confirmed my arrival. Inside she simply inscribed "I'm glad you're home".
'nuff said.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
Gh -- it's been a loooooong time since I checked on you or posted with all the drama in my world....but it's wonderful to know that things are going so well. You have worked so hard for this and have done an insane amount of introspection, it's an inspiration.
Keep up the good work and glad that things are smooth in your world!
GH, I am SO happy for you!! You are such an inspiration to so many here!! Thank You for all the support you have given me in the past year, I really appreciate it. I wish nothing but the best for you and I know you will have everything in life that you want. Take Care my friend, Love Mama
SOO hard to believe its been over a year! Interestingly enough, looking back over it, I can see how much we all have grown....while some may be living with continuing drama in their sitches or are now piecing, or whatever it may be, I think that as a general proposition, most of us have grown in this year.
Its good to hear from you now and again GH, I hope everything is going good.
Rob
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
Grasshopper, not sure you're around but would like a little "sage " visit over at the newcomers if you wouldnt mind. I have been told you can enlighten me..my thread is "lost boy" many thanks if you receive this...peace
I would be happy to comment on your sitch but sadly, mostly due to my choice, I am not around here as much as I once was. I think when they switched formats for the board it became a convienent point for me to start to drift away.
That said, I would be happy to try to help you. If you could somehow post a question, or maybe a summary of your sitch here on my thread, I would be happy to do what I can.
(still wearing the necklace and nothing else) that it was things like that, me thinking of the right thing to get her, that really let her know how much I love her...and then she gave me the rare ILY and said she didn't say it nearly enough (hey, 2 times a year, but who's counting, lol).
