In the begining he was great. He really is a nice guy she told me. but there were qualities that pushed him away. There was six months of her seeing how great he was. She told me there were things about me she couldn't give up, and there were parts of him she wanted to be with. These are the things I have been working on. The problem was he was pushing her towards a D, and thats what she believed. She didn't file because she still wanted the old me that she fell in love with. That's why GAL and 180 are so important. Once I had changed she saw there was hope for our M. She still has her bad days, when she is fighting with getting out of this A. It took her to realize that he wasn't the person she wanted, and only her to realize this. You can't force it, but you can pursuade her to believing in you as the person she wants to be with. The biggest thing she is going to deal with is the bond she created with OM daughter, He is a bad father, and she has took it upon herself to reach out and help her. She knows she can't fix everyone elses problems, but she is that type of person. You never know what the true attraction is, untill the truth comes out. In my case I feel it is the daughter that keeps him around. Not him, because it isn't a good R between them. your W might be holding on to something else that she doesn't want to let go of. In these cases it's a lot harder to win them back. But, you have to stay upbeat, and let it run it's course. Trying to stop it will create conflict, making it harder on them to be together will put stress on thier R, and create it's own conflict.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
