have you ever done that to you H, telling him you depend on him far too much and he is far too capable to engage in that mindset. Furthermore, ask him how you can you maintain your romanticism of him as your knight when he is like that. Empathy, mild boundary, some vulnerability and ego boost all rolled into one.
Maybe I have never made it clear but my H is generally quite resistant to any sort of expressed admiration for his manliness.If he was in a good mood and I said something along those lines he would joke it off. If I said it to him when he was in a real bad mood he might say something really sarcastic like "Yeah, I'd bet you'd like that having a knight. Nice try.". He does respond well sometimes to me saying something like "So you're going to dump it all in my lap, huh?". Also, I've developed greater awareness of the fact that sometimes I unconsciously do the opposite. For instance, one evening shortly after he was home on his two week sick spell he was objecting to the fact that I had to go to a late night book sale because he had to get up early the next morning and he might stay up worrying and I said "If I don't keep working full throttle I will not be able to control my anxiety.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
