I'm glad to see you're back posting. Given that you are still going through this process, it is good to be among people who can identify.
Well, perhaps to state the obvious, it is definitely not bad news that he is breaking it off with OW. Now comes the real test of your patience, I think.
Originally Posted By: lael
I think his desire to go forward with the divorce, has to do with the withdrawal stage. He thinks he needs to be alone to sort through his mess, and the only way he thinks he can do that, is to wipe the slate clean. He has had depression through most of the MLC, so I don't see that as a specific stage, in his case. I think he was starting to face his "final fears" back in January when he got spooked, and went running back into the tunnel to revisit all the stages again. Hopefully all of those doors are locked tight now, and he will be able to move forward.
I am going to stay detached from his drama. I can't help him right now. I'm not sure at this point if he will be able to follow through with the divorce, he has put it off so many times already. Hopefully he won't see it as the only way to clean up his mess.
This sounds like a sane plan to me. Just let him be. Lord knows we can't predict these MLCers, but I for one will be surprised if he files. He sounds too withdrawn. Again, if you can just let him be for awhile, he may decide to help himself.
