Okay, so you guys were right

[Bworl]

I don't think I'll ever understand all this but I'm making progress towards accepting that it's over and moving on.

I'm not a big fan of the fatalistic approach to DB'ing, so if that's how you mean this, I think it's a counter productive approach.

However if you mean this in the sense that you are accepting that SHE believes that you are finished and that THAT means you must continue to live your life on your own, I think that's a pretty cool place for you to be.

Many times it is when we truly let go of things that they finally have the ability to find their way back to us.

A particularly hokey and contrived analogy that just popped to my mind.

Suppose you took your beloved dog out for a walk on a VERY long leash. And for some reason the dog bolted off away from you, and since his leash was very long, you lost track of where he was and desperately wanted to get him back. Well your beloved dog ran off, got that extremely long leash tangled in all kinds of crap and even though he wants desperately to get back to you too, he can't untangle it. So what do you do?

You let go of the leash.

That frees your beloved dog to come running back to you.

He never makes it back as long as you are clutching to his leash.


.....ok, sorry, told you it was lame and contrived....

Blessings,

Bill