How are you today? Did you have fun being the perfect Mom at the movies with all of those other little bratlets?
I actually got a couple of books that were recommended and gave them to my S20 to read, they helped him to understand things a little better.
I will email you the list of other books.
Lis, let me try and essplayn something to you...
YOU are a good Mother. Regardless of what Javier does, it is YOU that the children will turn to. They trust YOU, not him. They will always love him, but YOU are their rock, and they will learn soon enough that they can only count on YOU. They also have your Father, who seems to be a wonderful example and support for your children.
The example you set during this time is what they will remember. Just because your Husband pulled this stunt, And his Father did this, does NOT mean that your precious Son will do it too.
One of the reasons is because you will not sit back and allow him to sit silently and suffer. You are not emotionally distant with your head up your arse. You are always available for him to talk abour his feelings.
As you know, I want to start a thread just on Chicano MLC'ers because I do believe there is something different about them. The men are idolized by their Mamies and the Mamies refuse to say a damn word.
As Mothers we do have power to change thingsand we need to use this to our advantage. Not by manipulation but by example and love.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
