hhhh, you put it so delicately. LMAO. hahahahah. hahahah. and thats the crux of the whole matter. YOU will never meet that man, because you will always push it to the next level to see if he can still be more top.
Maybe mother earth conceived of ways to prevent herself from being scorched black
This is the point I was trying to make about the necessity of finding a mature adult compromise when it comes to male/female sexuality. The behavior that makes a woman horny is not the behavior that will make her a reliable pair-bonded sex partner. If you "tell" a woman to have sex with you, you are appealing to her "bottom" desire. It might seem like "you" as the man are creating that desire by your behavior but it's just like a woman trying to appeal to men by getting bigger boobs. The woman is responding to the testosterone not the whole man just like the man is responding to the boobs not the whole woman. I would expect that men would feel threatened by female "bottom" desire in the same way women would feel threatened by men talking about how much they REALLY REALLY like REALLY REALLY big boobs or 19 year old girls or super model *ss etc. I mean most of the men on the BB would probably agree that it would be scorching hot to have sex with a 19 year old girl with big boobs and super-model *ss just like most of the women agreed that my fantasy was hot.
What I was trying to get at in my previous posts is an answer to the question "How are any of us going to stay pair-bonded and have hot sex when we are 60?". It's equally lame for me to think about getting a boob job as it is for me to think about finding a man who is more "top"-like in order to achieve that. My H and I could squabble endlessly about who is the one who needs to change "perception" of sexiness in order to make the sex more hot. What would make the sex more "warm" for both of us would be if we could appreciate the "pilgrim soul" in each other not just the attributes of femininity or masculinity. If my woman in the garden post seems to err more on the side of "what the girls want" then that's only natural because I'm a girl but I am trying to envision a compromise that allows for a generous, mature spirit in sexuality. "Tell" a girl to have sex with you but "Ask" a woman because as she reaches inside herself for the "Yes" she will be responding to you in a way that is more healthy and whole because she will be responding to the "pilgrim soul" in you, not just the man and that is the sort of sexual response that will last a lifetime.
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since you are old enough to be my mom,
Big sister. And you are in major denial about the other stuff.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
