You did the right thing. You have discovered the truth. You will find more strength within yourself than you ever knew you had. And this, as painful as it is, will set you free.
You will grieve more. You have been dealt a terrible blow. But, you will begin to understand. You will even begin to have compassion for Javier. I look back and would have done everything differently. My "instincts" were skewed by "ex's" MLC.
You will now set some strong boundaries. Now is the time to go dark. Grieve and take time to heal. You will face some things that you don't want to face. And you will have much disdain for him. BUT...now is the time to not throw stones. Come to the boards to vent your hurt and anger. This will bring you much healing. NOW THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU! Don't worry about him and don't fight with him any more.
Never tell your "enemy" what you are going to do. This is war. But in a "peaceful" sense. He does not have a clear plan. So don't play into his "stuff." In other words, don't do anything right now. There will be all the time in the future to retaliate. But you will find, in time, that this is not what you wish to do.
Stand, my Dear Lissette. But stand for what is true and right and don't let your children see that compassion is still "not the rule". Step back and deal with your anger and hurt. Look to the future...do you want to be remembered for your anger? Or would you rather show your beautiful children that doing the right thing is always the best path?
I know the answer to this and you do too. Difficult? You're damned right it is. He is not thinking clearly but you are. You could take full advantage of the situation but your children are watching. Extremely difficult? Yes, it is. But you are growing and it is after all, "All about You." So painful. But worth all the effort.
Now, the future holds beautiful things for us. There will come a time when you will know what is right for you. You already know what that is. Just work a little harder to get past THIS crap and your beauty will continue to shine through. Step forward and do the right thing. We are here for you. Take the time to be true to yourself. You have been given a gift.
