Hi R...just now found this post and wanted to reply on a few initial things...
What you did was SEX with OM....oral sex, manual sex....it is still being unfaithful....but then you knew that...
The good news in all of this is that you broke it off and you confessed to your H....this is very hard and not something that everyone is able to do....
Your H needs time....he is deeply hurt....I am not sure of your cultural upbringing but he probably feels shamed by what happened too....
Just keep being the best wife and mother you can be....in time he will SEE your dedication and begin to trust you again....now you know the dangers of being in close contact with the opposite sex....it can happen to anyone....so now you know it can happen to you and now it is up to you to avoid those situations...
I hope things work out for you and your family....everyone should have a second change...
