So you have to go thru the separation b/c your "credibility" is on the line? Or your pride? It's often a blurry, shifting line. Whatever you do, don't do it for the wrong reasons. It is a constant struggle for me to know when I am enforcing a healthy boundary, and when I am being punitive. I can be a dangerously good rationalizer.
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