A good resource online is uptoparents.org. It has some pointers about how D affects children and what you can do to prevent problems. It can be hard to read, though. I found that I needed a few breaks b/c I was getting too sad.
Honey, it is indeed a sad thing to watch someone we love hurting himself and others. Of course, it makes you angry that he's hurting your children (and you), but I do know that you still care about him. Right now, it's buried under the anger of betrayal, and that anger is what you need to process at the moment.
Finding out about the ow for sure has got to be one of the worst things that can happen. I also had ow's name and phone no--at work though, so I couldn't call her H. Believe you me, I was tempted. I did call her though, and left a pretty nice msg asking her to confirm that she and H had broken up. She never called back, but I think she whined to H b/c he got all mad at me and told me he was seeing someone else. Whatever...I'm still glad I did it.
Your MIL cannot admit that what her son is doing is wrong or she'd have to admit that she is at least in part to blame. She doesn't want to take that close look at herself. My MIL is the same: we can't be your friend and our son's parentts. We won't tell him what to do. But we love you and hope things work out. Yeah, thanks for that.
You are in my thoughts, Lovely Lissy.
~Nicola
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