A stand was needed at that time. I do not have half of the issues that are going on with you and wish that I could be as strong as you are now. My wife simply has lost feelings for me and does not want to work on the M due to me not listening years ago to her messages and now she is emotionally shut down. Anyway, there is always hope and one thing that I am learing is that we need to lookout for ourselves first. This is what you did. Do not leave this board for you will have much support here. As well I need to learn from you as well.
I am not a real fan of pumpkin pie, either. However, I was recently introduced to sweet potato pie and I love that. Just what I needed was ANOTHER dessert that I like!!
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
If you leave the board WHO WILL DRIVE THE WASBUSTA?????????
Don't you dare think of such a thing, we need you here...!You did the right thing. I have flipped out with my H as well, they get over it and you feel better which is what this is all about anyway, now isn't it?
As far as your S is concerned, I asked the pshcyiatrist teh same question. He said that the fact that my kids are close with my family (as I beleive yours are as well) is very good. He said that they will feel the stability and sense of family with the extended family.
Also, I believe that if you can be emotinoally available, strong, reliable, etc... that will be another thing in your favor.
I would also recommend counseling. I think a lot of these problems come about becuase these guys (or gals) keep stuff bottled up for years. If your S can learn to talk about what he's feeling, that will be good.
With all those things in place, he will be just fine... better... he will learn from the mistakes he's witnessed and lived through and he will come out of this an amazing person (which I'm sure he already is).
Although we don't get married and have kids only to end up divorced, sometimes it just has to happen. And I think there are many things we can do as parents that can keep our kids as minimally impacted as possible.
You're an amazing mother. It's clear to all of us here. That will be instilled in your kids their whole lives. They aer so lucky to have you.
I think with all the support you, you family and friends give your kids will be fine. I think that the sense of love, stability and security you all provide will far outweigh Puffy's insanity.
I hope you have a great time at the movies. Shades
A good resource online is uptoparents.org. It has some pointers about how D affects children and what you can do to prevent problems. It can be hard to read, though. I found that I needed a few breaks b/c I was getting too sad.
Honey, it is indeed a sad thing to watch someone we love hurting himself and others. Of course, it makes you angry that he's hurting your children (and you), but I do know that you still care about him. Right now, it's buried under the anger of betrayal, and that anger is what you need to process at the moment.
Finding out about the ow for sure has got to be one of the worst things that can happen. I also had ow's name and phone no--at work though, so I couldn't call her H. Believe you me, I was tempted. I did call her though, and left a pretty nice msg asking her to confirm that she and H had broken up. She never called back, but I think she whined to H b/c he got all mad at me and told me he was seeing someone else. Whatever...I'm still glad I did it.
Your MIL cannot admit that what her son is doing is wrong or she'd have to admit that she is at least in part to blame. She doesn't want to take that close look at herself. My MIL is the same: we can't be your friend and our son's parentts. We won't tell him what to do. But we love you and hope things work out. Yeah, thanks for that.
You are in my thoughts, Lovely Lissy.
~Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
Jack you are up already? hmmm! thanks for stopping by dork.
all of your words , bring me some peace.
It's almost 3 pm, and I think I only cried once for 5 minutes, that is progress. bleh.
He called to speak with the kids, and then weanted to talk to me about the new cell phone, do i unerstand it, and blah blah, i said yes thank you and hung up.
I hear people laughing and talking in the background and it makes my stomach sick.
ok, I better get the fake smile back on, taking a whole bunch of kids to the movies.
thanks
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“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
I hear people laughing and talking in the background and it makes my stomach sick.
I know that this is one of the world's shi**iest sounds. Hang in there. It hurts unbelievably at first, I know, but I promise it gets better and I know you are strong, strong, strong.
What movie did you see? I still love most kid's movies.
