Hi FO- Welcome aboard this leaky boat. You are among friends. You're not the only person with this problem, and not the only WOMAN with this problem. My bf and I ML twice last year...
I'm going to start a thread for you below where it will be easier for people to find.
How about some background... ages, how long you've been together, first marriage for both? You mentioned that your bf/h was concerned about children before marriage-- does this mean there are religious objections to artificial birth control (there are others in this forum with those values).