how to keep calm and patient??

[Heywyre]

Inpain, you definitely need to step back and take it slower.

Pressuring your H to take a bath, kiss, etc. etc. is just pushing him away, it will not bring you closer. I waited almost a year before I started getting pecks, and that's all they are to this day, just pecks. There is no passion in his kisses, they are still superficial. But they are kisses, something I haven't had for a long, long time. To me, this is progress. To you, maybe not.

As for taking a bath together - there is no way in the world I would ever suggest that to my H at this point. We are still way too far apart for that. We haven't ML for close to 3 years (yes, 3 years) and I know it is going to be some time yet before we can broach that subject or action.

I know it seems like it is never going quick enough for you - I've been there. You have to step back and take the pressure off not only your H but you also. You are becoming obsessed with it and when you release that obsession you might be pleasantly surprised as to how his actions start to change.

Take a deep breath, GAL and take it a heck of a lot slower