Harmonic Divergence

[Lord Grenville]

Thanks for replying InHerJourney and Lillieperl.

I managed to get a little over 3 hours of sleep, and here's where I am at now:

I looked through all the accessible phone records going back until October, and I don't see her calling OM until after her Dec. 18 trip to Concordia College. But she did call him for almost two hours on two occasions and numerous times for short calls.

I don't have access to detailed records between January 23rd and now. Verizon says I would need a supoena to get those right now, but they will be available around March 2.

OM lives only 6 miles from Concordia College in NY, so he was probably at the conference on December 18. Maybe it was only an EA up until this weekend. My W was in NYC for 5 days and 4 nights, with a hotel room that was not going to shared with the other Tufts professor until last night supposedly, so I would find it hard to believe they did not turn it into a PA.

What I am wondering now, is if I confront her with the name of OM, his address and the phone record, and she says he is only "a friend", how in G-D's name do I believe her? I asked her at a counseling session a month ago, if there was anyone else she was involved with, and she said NO. Last week in counseling when she announced she wanted to stop being intimate with me, I expressed my worry that if her sexual needs were not being met, that she might look to someone else. Again she denied that possibility to me and our counselor. Our bond of trust has been broken completely now.

I am going to go out to a big box bookstore and try to find the books that NOPkins recommended, so I might start reading today.

Thanks again,

Marc