I believe the other piece of the puzzle is that which has been suppressed in the subconsious. And this is what makes them so irrational. In my own childhood when I first started going to primary school, I haven't got a single memory of the pain and kicking and screaming I did when my mum put me on the school bus. But I just 'knew' that these events had happened. So how do you figure that one out then, I have no memory of these events but I 'know' they happened?
This is interesting. I think that's it. I think that if it's supressed, it ends up coming to back to haunt them later in life. What you said about the kicking and screaming is interesting. I've said here before and I'll say again, when my H's parents told his kids they were getting D, H was the only one who ran out of the room crying and saying NO, NO. HIs mom tells me that, so she finds it so hard to beleive that his whole life he has said taht the D didn't bother him.
I think it comes more down to a fear of pain. My H, like many others, have learned at a young age to fight off the pain... to find a way not to let things bother him. It's his defense mechanism... so when somethign liek this happens, he doesn't knwo how to get out of this horrible mess without feeling pain.
