is it? Is it really going to take months? I can see the logic but feelings are rarely logical. You are assuming and imagining. It may take less. It could be as well that H feels pressured (even though I know that isnt' what you want to do) and ...well..that can have a deflating effect on men ...
Maybe you're right Jen. Gosh I am just so negative and deflated about this subject aren't I. H does feel pressured. He says he would still feel pressured if I wasn't feeling the way I do because he knows it needs sorting out but maybe not as pressured. I just can't seem to stop having a reaction and making it known whenever I feel he is avoiding me.
I checked out the BBC website thanks, there was a lot of interesting stuff on there. I don't know how to put any of it across to H though. I'm apparently expecting too much and not taking it slowly if I want one kiss per day. H said last night that I just don't seem to understand the concept of taking it slowly. Well yeah actually I do but I just thought that once we had done something once (ie like kissing) we could then do that every day and build it up to something else. But apparently not in H's world. Might try suggesting a bath or something but I think I already know the answer. Thank you for your suggestions about massage. I have said to him about that as I remember seeing something on TV about taking things slowly in this way and he says you can massage me when we go to bed if you like and then it doesn't happen because he says he doesn't need one now. I'd love to do the sensate therapy - I think it would help him but he doesn't seem to want to help himself.
I'd love to do the sensate therapy - I think it would help him but he doesn't seem to want to help himself.