8, I too go through those times where I wonder if having her around is the best strategy! There are weeks where I can't wait for her to go out and be the hell away from me. Those times will come and go. We must recognize that our W's aren't idiots, they know what they are doing to their family and it hurts them. They are confused and angry, just as we are. I asked my W a few weeks ago to go for counselling with me and I could almost see the walls spring up around her. Her responses where downright silly e.g. "Why do we always have to know where we are going?" considering this woman pratically schedules her bathroom visits! My point being don't take the incident from last night as particularly meaningful, don't give it more due than it deserves. My guess is you might have a few more days like this and then it will be back to normal. It's part of the rollercoaster. Give it time and remember the pain and confusion isn't all lying with you. They may seem to know exactly where they are going but, honestly they are just as messed up as us. Hang tough, you've been doing great!!!
