The people in the SSM forum universally have the goal of saving the marriage. Affairs are absolutely condemned, and D is seen only as an utterly last resort. Sometimes one of the partners initiates a D and that gets the other person's attention. This forum is very pro-marriage (pro-relationship). I don't know about the others because I don't read them.

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I think the disclaimers are important and needed because I thought that is exactly what NOP skipped. His comment was that I was "instructing" Lord G to not snoop after I felt I specifically said in italics to take all I wrote with a grain of salt and to just read it and see if it applied. ... But instead NOP specifically stated that I was instructing Lord G after I thought I had clearly stated that my comments were to be read as my opinion.


How shall I put this... it was very clear that you were NOT instructing LG and that you were giving suggestions from your own experience. NOP's comments notwithstanding, you were VERY CLEAR. It was one person's reaction.