I'm going to tell you sumtin'. Nop was the very first poster who responded to me on the boards, waaaaayyyyyy back when. If you want to get creative with the search engine, you might likely find my first post.
Although my M ended in D, it certainly was not lack for effort on the very effective suggestions that NOP gave me. He was in a tough place himself, for sure, but, in his very firm but gentle way, he was able to break through my 'Corri' walls and help me find a measure of emapathy. I can tell you I held on a lot longer because of the seriousness I gave to his suggestions. And the small measure of success I found. And I did.
There were other things, unfortunately, that diverged on my marriage at the same time I had hit my upswing. My H had gotten some very serious promotions at work, there was a strong amount of 'eog play' that came into his bearing... and his entire 'modis operendi' changed. Dam near everything about him changed in the last year of my M... and I had already contacted a private detective.
That does NOT negate the effectiveness of NOP advice. I would urge you, honey, to listen closely. NOP has been around the block more times than you or I and bf and Stig, and a few countless others, combined.
He's no superman. He's a mere mortal, just like you and I. But he is a wonderful mortal, full of compassion and understanding, and straight-forward shooting.
But. If you are beyond this, certainly no one is blaming you.
