how to keep calm and patient??

[Jen_Jam]

If I thought that was all it would take I could handle it. But it has taken a month to get from a peck to a half hearted don't really want to do this "proper" kiss. So given how many more steps there are to ML stage this is going to take months and months and months.
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is it? Is it really going to take months? I can see the logic but feelings are rarely logical.
You are assuming and imagining. It may take less. It could be as well that H feels pressured (even though I know that isnt' what you want to do) and ...well..that can have a deflating effect on men ...
Comfort zone ... interesting point...when my H was LD I asked if he'd consider a baby step out of his comfort zone ... I would accept no ML if he would let me massage him, or he could massage me. Just an example.

[quote=inpain]Thank you for being so caring Jen. Posting on here and getting some replies when I feel like jacking it in is the only thing stopping me walking out right now. Thank you.

You are most very welcome - I don't know what ANY of us would do without this place, I treat it sometimes like my little padded cell where I can come and SCREAM!!! Then I'm calmer and can deal with whatever is bothering me.

Good luck with this and let me know if you go for the Relate stuff - oh yes the BBC website also has a good section on relationships, mentions sensate therapy too.