Piecing Advice

[Jen_Jam]

Jeff is right on the money here!!!
it's SO important to remember that we don't NEED our S's, that our lives will NOT crumble to dust without them, we only want them in our lives.
Also- I know how you feel when you intimate that it's "your" turn. Your turn for what? To dish out the unhappiness? No - I know you don't think like that.
I went through a stage recently of that, like "hurrah H is back now we can have all those R talks and I can ask for what I want and he can make it up to me!!!".
It doesn't work like that.
I have been keeping the focus on me more, doing things I enjoy (ice skating Thursday, football match today) without H and it's felt good. I no longer "worry" over him, I trust him to come to me if he needs somethign from me, if he doesn't then I won't rush in and offer him anything.
Don't know if I'm making much sense here...bear with me.
OK - you need time and understanding. Let me rephrase that. You need patience and to set boundaries. Patience with yourself and with this situation, boundaries so if H does have a go at you for wearing you comfies you can state calmly and clearly "I am having my period and not feeling well. Wearing these helps me feel better. I'm sorry you don't like it." (or similar) ie putting to H that it's HIS problem.
And remember how GOOD you felt when you were GAL? Your posts were SO uplifting to me, you were my GAL model, I used to think when I was out and about "what would SD do?" and it helped SO MUCH. So you know what makes you feel good - go and do it!
I promise you WILL get through this, piecing is taking FAR longer that I first thought, I have given myself the rest of this year to feel odd, then will see how I feel in December and go from there.