Believe it or not, this latest round has actually given me hope that DBing is the way to go. I had just recently dropped my thread ( Hanging over Cloud 6.5 ) because I thought I was failing at DB when I blew up at my W on Monday night. But reading your stories (along with Jack's and a ton of others) lets me believe what we're doing is right. And also that the roller-coaster ride that our MLC's are going through aren't just their highs and lows, but ours as well.
Blowing up and venting the frustration and anger at our WAS might set us back a step or two on the path to saving our marriage, but if we just bottle up those feelings without a release, they will kill us as surely as cancer.
As much as detaching and GAL works for us, we aren't robots. We still feel for our MLC's, whether they deserve it or not. So, take a deep breath (and a healthy dose of wine) and let the pool boys give you a nice massage to work out that stress.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
