I take my hat off to you - you are so very very patient.
My H too is doing all the other things right except intimacy but he didn't have an A just (I say just it was still a big deal) left me and S for 4 months. Anyway my H has actually said he is afraid that he won't feel right and it will ruin what we've built back up. Like you rightly say it is only half a M. To me that side of things is what makes your R with your spouse different and special from other R you have in life. It is very frustrating I know and I too am starting to resent all the things I am doingb when H says it is such a big deal just to kiss me. He acts like someone has a gun to his back. It is making me so miserable because I feel unattractive yet he says its not that. He has explained it all but it doesn't stop the hurt inside everytime I feel I want to do something and I know I'm "not allowed". Are you able to discuss with your wife what the problem is or is that a no go??
Like you rightly say it is only half a M. To me that side of things is what makes your R with your spouse different and special from other R you have in life. It is very frustrating I know and I too am starting to resent all the things I am doingb when H says it is such a big deal just to kiss me. He acts like someone has a gun to his back. It is making me so miserable because I feel unattractive yet he says its not that. He has explained it all but it doesn't stop the hurt inside everytime I feel I want to do something and I know I'm "not allowed". Are you able to discuss with your wife what the problem is or is that a no go??