We've already emailed this morning, but I'm gonna post to you here too. First of all, I have learned that these men never leave the home unless there IS someone else. It's a given. So do not listen to his poor justification that ow is not the reason he left. She most certainly is. He just kept her hidden (ashamed of her, perhaps? Yes.) very well for a year. My H pulled the same crap; she is not why I left, etc. They are unhappy and when they find someone else, they swing from the marriage into the affair, hoping we don't notice the obvious.
However, I am not at all implying that we caused them all this unhappiness. It's inside of them. At first we feel like we did something wrong to push them into someone else's sleezy arms, but eventually we realize that isn't the truth.
Now, I know you are upset right now, but you did the right thing. You 180'ed...you stood up to him and that was great. I loved what you said here:
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he said i will get you in court if you do anything to ow
i said me do anything to ow? puhleese, she has my sloppy seconds, how does she love to see my name tatooed on your body, when she is with you.
she must love to read Lissett every time.
That was fantastic. Good for you. It needed to be said, quite frankly.
He's so deep into replay that nothing you would try to do right now would help. Believe me, I know. I wasted so much energy when my H was in this stage. I am glad your family is in such great support of you and yes, they are going to be angry with Puffy now. But he earned it, didn't he?
I won't tell you your marriage can be saved since I know you do not want to hear that. But do remember that this is the worst of the replay now, and ALL of us have been there. And some of the board members here are now seeing BIG changes for the better.
I agree with Nicky, be detached as much as humanly possible, keep posting here (don't leave us for the D section!) and remember you have so many people that love you and are concerned. I will check in with you later, ok? love, Hope
