... Anyway, she lost 30+ lbs, and NOW she's too fat for the wedding ring?!?
How did she lose 30-40 lbs in a few weeks? THAT doesn't sound possible... Did she start wearing the ring on another finger in preparation for taking it off altogether?
You say she's been depressed for about a year? What else happened besides the move?
Now that I think about it, it was 6 weeks ago when I noticed she wasn't wearing her ring on her ring finger, and I just saw some notes in my journal that she told me she removed it 6 weeks prior to that when it was too tight. She showed me a still visible circular indentation where it had been. (I know - like most men, I do not always pay attention to what rings she is wearing or not wearing).
She probably started losing weight over the autumn as she mentioned she had lost her appetite and began having trouble sleeping - this is what lead her to go to a therapist in December. The emergence of years of repressed emotions is what has been going on. I have asked her many times in many different ways over the past weeks, if there is anything specific that I have done or have been doing to affect our relationship or marriage in a negative manner. The ONLY thing she has verbalized so far, is that going back as far as 1989 (!) she felt I was spending a little too much time doing volunteer work and spending time and energy in various capacities as a Board member of environmental groups or Trustee of our current and previous condominium associations, etc., which meant I had less time and energy to build an art & design business that we could work together in. It took her 17 years to tell me this!
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
