So much has been said. I have not Db'd, I have not kept my mouth shut. I have stood up for myself, for the first time in 12 years to Javier, and it was not pretty.
Javier and I had a rocky marriage, it was good, it was bad, it was really bad.
The ow, is a lady that Javier claimed was only his friend at first. She has been around since he first left last February.
She works where he works, as a receptionist i think. She was left by her husband, and has 3 children. I have her name, her phone number and her address.
info falls in to our laps right.
Anyway, Puffy, told me that, he left me b/c i treated him like crap for 12 years. He told me that I am psycho, and all sort of bad words.
He said that this ow is not the reason, he left, he left me b/c of me. I said do you know that you have done the exact same thing your father has done
Puffy's father left the mother, never paid 1 dime in child support, his OW has 3 kids by 3 different men, and he married her.
They are now mormon and live in Utah, he has been "happily" married to the OW for over 20 years now. They have 1 son together, and this is where the pay back comes in, this son, has many many problems, even tho Puffy's dad and his wife are in denial.
This boy has so many problems,, that he is not allowed in my home or next to my children, I think you are starting to see that this boy, Javier's halfo brother, like "touching" other boys.
Instead of Javier being on my side about this, he turned the other cheek, and just got very upset with me that I didn't let his father and his wife and his son stay at my home, even tho, this brother of his, tried to touch my son.
This matter is something that Puffy refused to discuss, it was something else he swept under the rug, and I again was a cray phsyco, b/c i just could not let it go.
Well I told puffy, look this ow is not meeting my kids, and he had the nerve to tell me we will see about that.
I went off on him i was shaking so hard.
I said you have abandoned us and now youa re comitting adultery, that is 2 strikes against you in the eyes of the NJ law. even tho puffy thinks he has not done this.
he is in denial.
i said thi ow is a bandaid for you, to lick you little wounds that have come out,now. I don't blame her really, you pop up in work with your new boy band clothes and new cell phones, and she thinks she has won the jack pot, someone to take care of her and her 3 kids.
poor whore doesn't know that you won't have a pot to piss in , after the lawyer is thru with you.
To bad for you really Puffy, you think that this divorce is going to solve your problems, just like you thought that leaving the house will solve your problems, funny, you still feel like dying right? that is why you always ask me for different medications.
From now on the whore can get them for you.
You say our kids are just fine right, why, bc the whores kids seem fine? ofcourse they have you around.
but now my kids get ripped off, you are less than a part time dad, how can you look at them in the face, knowing you are buying pets and stuff for the whores kids, and your kids cry b/c they miss you
he said i will get you in court if you do anything to ow
i said me do anything to ow? puhleese, she has my sloppy seconds, how does she love to see my name tatooed on your body, when she is with you.
she must love to read Lissett every time.
I said i will have more than 100 witnesses on my side saying i am a wonderful mother, and provider, i will have reports from a thereapist stating how our beautiful son, says he hates you, and if you get married again, he will never talk to you.
i will have the proof
who will defend you puffy, a whore?
she will look great in court won't she.
You have nothing on me, not one thing, the only thing you can say about me is that i fought, fought for my marriage.
So go off ride off in the sunset, with the whore and her kids.b/c soon you will crash and burn.
My dad walked in as I was having this conversation with puffy, and my dad saw me shaking, and he said I will hire 100 lawyers, i will deplete my savings, but i will no die, until he has nothing.
this whole time puffy did not say a word or cursed back at me, which is a miracle,
who knows what is going thru his mind, and who know what ammo he is trying to get now.
he will be evil.
but i had to get it off my chest.
i know it was totally anti dbing, but i am not delusional about this,
ny marriage will be over soon, and for me getting re married to puffy, is not going to happen. please don't tell me you never know, i know.
I am in shock still that this is my life. I am in shock still that puffy would do this to me. He always hated when men would do this, and he has done this.
my entire family knows now about the ow. and they are done with puffy. they have always been nice to him thru out this year,but that is it. he called my brother last night, and my brother picked up the phone and hung uo, puffy will soon see, that he has no support when it comes to my family anymore.
and they have gone over and beyond for him.
his path of destruction has reached tremendous heights.
there is no turning back now.
onward with the divorce, and the nastyness.
please don't tell me i have to leave this board, and go to Divorced forum.
bleh
i love you all, and you are all in my prayers.
I have just been thrown for a new loop i guess, i was to detached to really feel the pain, and now the pain is unbearable, but I am working thru it as best i can with God and with you guys.
thank for letting me vent, and OMG sorry this is sooo long
Last edited by Lissett; 02/17/0704:06 PM.
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