Harmonic Divergence

[Lord Grenville]

Thanks for the advice, Blackfoot, Lillieperl, and Nopkins,

Part of me wants to put my dog in the car, and drive down to NYC (which would be a 5 hour drive) to find out TODAY whether there is an OM. But that could really backfire for me and our marriage if my wife is not having an affair.

I have also been thinking of getting keylogger software for our home computer to check on her e-mail and web usage. I could accomplish that in the next week and it might give me evidence without a crazed drive to New York and back.

The real problem I have right now is that my I have been working as a freelance designer and illustrator, and a steady part-time gig from the past years just ended recently, so right now I am effectively unemployed but looking for new work. My wife has always made more $$ due to her full time employment with Tufts University. If we separate our finances then I am going to have a difficult time making ends meet for myself.

I will look into the books that NOPkins recommended, but right now I am still reading DB and my wife and I are both still making our way through "Codependent No More" that our counselor has us reading. I also have two books of required reading for a business development course for artists I am enrolled in. So my head is already swimming in non-fiction. I wish I could just escape with some good fiction right now, but the way life is going, I feel like Will Ferrell's character in "Stranger than Fiction", where someone is writing a twisted path of destiny that is playing out on a daily basis.