I am sorry you are going through this. After reading your thread I want to remind you that this is his problem, not yours. It sounds like he has some BIG issues to deal with. You are normal. You did nothing wrong in your relationship but be human. Any one who has gone through what you have is an amazing, strong person. This will come in handy as life goes on. It is o.k. to love your husband and to remember the good times. It is up to you if you want to keep DBing for the relationship or not.
I am here to tell you there is a happy ending, with or without H. Are you trying to "get a Life", pursuing your interests, taking care of yourself? Being around your family sounds healthy for you. Everyone in this situation needs support. Pray about this decision and see what happens. Your letting H dump his problems on you. Show him you can live without him. Detach.
HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS
Me: 45 H: 43 Married: 19 years Dated 05 years Bomb: 11/06 OW - "I love her, but still want you as my friend"
