Heartbroken, I tend to agree it's not time for LRT yet. I thought I was too then I realized things are actually still not bad. The "I don't know" really is more positive. I heard "I am leaving" turned into (not taking action on leaving) TO "I don't know" TO (still not taking action on leaving or trying to see he if he can just move to the next room) TO "I eventually want to come back to you but I don't know how to let OW go". Keep at DBing. It's really a bit like dating but you cannot be too pushy, do find out what he likes secretly and do that. 180 on what he does not like about you. Remember, now you have to give, give, give and do not expect anything back (except to look for these "word clues" and baby steps from him which may not happen). The way I see it, you have much to gain if this works out. If not, you would have given all your effort for a while, which compared to 16 years long of marriage is really not that much to risk. And you will come out definetly as a better person for all around you. good luck.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
