SD you WILL get there...but be prepared to have ILYBINILWY feelings for your H now and then ...if you do just go back to GAL, to enjoying life and if H gets worried just say you need a little space. Yes it does seems as if the alien invades us too...but we're stronger than them!! Darn ET's!!
Ohhhhh, so already have felt this. Right now I feel like H is a good friend, and I don't think that's altogether a bad thing. We never really had a good friendship, and I think that's part of what will make our M great someday. But romantic? Not so much.
I have to laugh or I'll cry about being invaded by an alien myself. Heck, even *I* puzzle me, LOL. It's like, I got everything I was working for back, and now I can't be satisfied or comfortable. I'm still always waiting for the hammer to drop, always putting up that wall, remembering I'm not safe here. My safe place was blown to smithereens this summer, and it's going to take some time to rebuild.
I may take a weekend and go have some me time to try to figure things out. It's H's turn to be patient, to suck it up, and be supportive. If he can't/won't do that, I can't see staying long term. I deserve to receive what I'm giving him, pure and simple.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
