So give me a specific example of a trick a guy might use.
Well, I want to say it's not what he does but how he does it but I know you will accuse me of deflecting.-LOL.
A slightly more specific answer might be anything that Jack Nicholson does. His entire personality is "top".
Specific example from my own life might be the time I was at a party playing cards with some friends. A man I knew only slightly was seated next to me at the table. He took my hand under the table and held it gently but firmly like you might hold the hand of a child crossing the street. He didn't touch me in any other way but he proceeded to intermittently throughout the game whisper in my ear just exactly what he was going to do to me later.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
