Cemar, I think you have a point. For sure, HD men have a harder row to hoe than HD women because we do not have gobs of testosterone freaking up our resolve to act a certain way or achieve this or that goal. It's quite easy for a woman to say, "Distract yourself" blah blah but the reality is that this is no more possible than it is for a man to tell a woman not to be hormonal during That Time.
So, I guess it gets you off the hook as far as your semi-regular episodes of passively psychotic behavior but it doesn't get you off the hook for being too chicken to force changes in your M. Now, don't give me that baloney about the LD controlling the M and all that...just don't.
Understand that, as the man, you have a harder job than your wife does and accept it and step up to the plate. Be willing to channel your sexual frustrations into overturning your non-confrontational instincts and then report back to us.
Cac, Have you ever read anything written by priests about the sublimation of their sex drive? I used to think as you do--and still struggle with it--but I've since read things written by priests about this very subject and it was enlightening to say the least. I was most surprised by the idea that these are just regular guys, regular joes, and not naturally LD. They just felt the calling that strongly. Say, aren't you the guy who had to give up his passion for flying? Well, if so, imagine that I told you that you could fly all you wanted to but could never be with a woman again. What would you choose? Well, the answer is irrelevant but I hope you get my drift..
