Yes we have all been in the wars lately it is making things a little strained but we are getting through it still which is a good sign - need to be able to deal with bad times too right!?
Yes I did get an answer to my question. Basically H is worried in case it doesn't feel right or he feels uncomfortable what that will do to the R. We had a really good chat about it and I think we both feel a little better about it. H actually promised me we would get there! I couldn't believe it that he actually promised me something - the man who wanted to D me 10 weeks ago!
You are so right about taking things for granted. Like you say you appreciate the smallest of things now and let things ride that used to make you mad. Losing your H is a very big eye opener and I agree I think that the separation actually is good in the way it makes you appreciate what you have. I know for sure I will never ever take my H for granted again.
My family were apprehensive at first mostly because it was so near Christmas so they (and me) thought it was just going to be a sham so he could have Christmas with S and then leave again. My Mum has seen H and they have been fine with each other and she is pleased we are making a go of it. My Dad hasn't said anything - I think it will take him a while. I'm dreading the first time they end up seeing each other again.
I really do feel that H wants everything to be OK now and is back for good. We just have some creases to iron out and it is getting to us both. I'm frustrated that things aren't happening and H is frustrated that he doesn't feel he can do those things.
