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[BeingMe]

I hate to bring this up, but is there OW? My H wanted out, and told me there was no-one else, but there was OW after all. Seems to me, that a man won't leave his W and/or family, unless he is going to someone else. I'm not saying you should snoop, but bear it in mind when dealing with him. His wanting absolutely no contact for the next 2 weeks just makes me wonder why.

Anyway, your best bet is to go dark (it's what he says he wants), start GAL (which means taking care of yourself, focusing on your needs, your interests, and what pleases you), be a little mysterious if he calls, keep up the PMA, and work toward lovingly detaching. All basic DB'ing techniques, which you probably know already, but it does no harm rehashing, 'eh!

If your H is in MLC, then expect him to rewrite your marital history. He will say things happened, that never did, or expectations that were never met, that were. You will become the 'evil' W, who never understood him. He will speak in generalities, and extremes, and very rarely will there be specifics because there are none. It was 'always' or 'never'. He will probably even say he had doubts about marrying you in the first place. You will, in other words, hear some really unpleasant and confusing things. Keep writing in your journal, and don't let him make you doubt yourself. Also, make sure you protect yourself, financially, and legally. You do not want to end up being responsible for his debt (and they do love to spend when they're in MLC lalaland).

A lot of this has been my experience, or those of many on this board, and a little from people I know who have been through similar sitches. Yours may be a variation, and I sure do hope it will be a gentler one.

Take care!