Btw, I think after you've established their trust in your being a man, women totally dig a little boyish play.
Of course. There's nothing wrong with being girlish either. We all like to feel or remember that sort of fresh green new growth of horniness we had when we were boys and girls. The point I am trying to make is that our mature sexuality needs to come from strong perennial root stock rather than from throwing Miracle Grow on an old packet of seeds or a blighted plant. Those of us who are HD definitely need to hard prune back the diseased part of our drive but we should never ever forget that our sex drive does have a deep healthy grounded aspect. When we say "I will not stay in a sex-starved marriage" what we are really saying is "My root stock is strong and I will grow and bear fruit with or without your continued care. I will trust in the sun and the rain of the garden and refuse to leave myself to wilt neglected on your windowsill.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Without resorting to analogy the point I was trying to make about not being a boy is obvious. The point I was trying to make about not asking a woman to act like a girl is that if you use the sort of masculine tricks that attract the girl in a woman then you will never be able to trust or respect her because you have made a sexual contract with the part of her that is not an adult and you can't expect a child to honor a contract. Those sort of masculine tricks will work every time. They would definitely work on me but not a healthy, mature part of me. That is why I recommend that men shouldn't use them.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Here is how you have sex like a WOMAN. but right now is your time....But what if the man doesn't return your smile? What if the man is unable to being his own strength to bear? How can you be a woman? Hush. Don't worry. Drop seed. Carry baby. A man will come.
"You need to walk straight up to the woman in your wife with your eyes wide open. Don't be a boy and don't expect her to play the girl so you can feel more like a man." -- Jenny
I loved the post Jenny. It portrays that men have to play their part so the woman can play her part.
Jenny, I loved your how to have sex like a woman. Kind of underscores the need to be a man, don't it! No doubt today's society and it's feminization of men has brought forth a crop of men who don't play the part of being a man very well, myself included.
No, I was saying life is too complicated to remember to play tricks on another person to get what I want.
I withdraw, I detach but I don't use lines or imitate other men that have a reputation for being ladies men. WYSIWYG=what you see is what you get.
today's society and it's feminization of men has brought forth a crop of men who don't play the part of being a man very well, myself included. Add some co-dependency and some FOO, and some political correct stuff, I see where I am missing the polarity model.
What kind of tricks? Give examples.What kind of tricks? Give examples.
Let me explain. The cultural myth is that what women want sexually is romance. Women do want romance. It makes them feel warm, fuzzy, cared for and appreciated. It does not usually make them hot. Most females, most of the time whether LD or HD are sexual "bottoms". Therefore, what they want sexually is to be dominated. Any man who has mastered the "tricks" of being a strong "top" sexually will have no trouble getting action. Most of the advice that BF is offering the other men is valid because he is trying to demonstrate how to be a strong "top". IMO this is "valid" advice but not "good" advice. Here's why. BF made the point that most of the time if he tells a woman what to do she will do it. This is because of the woman's Pavlovian response as a sexual "bottom". OTOH, as we all know, if a HDM in any way tries to placate a woman in an attempt to get sex he is doomed to failure because he is acting too much like a "bottom". My point is that there is a difference between being a strong man sexually and being a strong "top" sexually. If you "tell" a woman to be sexual she probably won't say "no" but if you "ask" a woman to be sexual she might say "yes" with a part of her that is better, more whole, than just her "bottom" instinct. But it takes a strong man to risk hearing "no" in that way.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
