Muddle, in her view all I have to do is read her mind, simple as that I think it's also important that I not be so pompous as to assume I know what she acknowledges and what she dismisses, because really I do not know! I FEEL as though all the good is dismissed and the bad recognized, but that doesn't make it so. I can acknowledge to myself that this is how I FEEL, but really that is all I can know. Best for me not to spend too much time on it, it's a cheeseless tunnel that can only create resentment. What is is and what will be is still to come. I'll try to stay positive.