You`re H is following the script of the MLC lingo to a tee. We have all heard the same song & dance.
Respect his wishes to be alone to think, this will also give you time to do the same. I get the impression that your H is still home. If he is, try to keep him there, it`s so much easier to save your M that way.
He is making excuses, there can`t be anything wrong with him, it`s all you. Do not believe it. He has to go through this process to discover that he has the problem, not you.
Keep coming here, you will find strength & know it`s not you. It`s a long process, keep patience, give him space, now that it`s out in the open, things will change.
