(((Heather))) Well, one thing that may come out of this, if you two move in the divorce direction, is that he will be unable to monopolize the time you have with the kids. He will have his time. You will have yours. Aside from joint "special events" such as kids concerts, recitals, etc., you can do what you want when it is your custody time.
My ex still pulls things like planning special fun events which don't end until well after my custody time has begun. I wouldn't put it past your H to do the same type of thing. I had to fight constantly for my custody time. It served two purposes: It let her know that she was not to fark with me on that issue. And it let my kids know that I cared enough about them to fight for my time to spend with them.
As for his suspicion of the non-existent infidelity, let him be suspicious. Not your job to validate your fidelity to him anymore. And you might also want to think about whether he is projecting his own guilt onto you.
