He is fine with leaving the kids basically unsupervised while he sleeps. I am not.
BI, I feel you here my STBX is the same way but my kids seem a little smaller than yours. Not sure how many you have but my STBX would sleep on the couch downstairs while my D1 would just run around and get into everything...Crazy the way they think isn't it?
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I am TIRED of this.
I know your feeling. What do you think you should do about it? What do you think you can do to ease the bitterness that you currently have towards your H? I know you are trying to save your M and if you want that to happen you are going to have to find some way to deal with the anger and resentmet that you are feeling towards him.
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Esp. if we don't stay M, my stay-at-home-with-children days are over, and I mourn that too.
This is so true. Unfortunately you need to look at this as a positive. You need to look at it as you are preparing your life for the future. If you do seperate in anyway you will have already started preparing for life after seperation and it will make it easier on you in the long run. I am actually happy for you for picking up a full time job. It shows how dedicated of a parent you are. That is something you had to do for you and your kids and you took the proper steps to do it. Kudos.
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Yes I did what I did, BUT is his motto. It used to be my motto, so I see it SO clearly.
I agree with Muddle when he says it looks like you husband is trapped and will not let himself free right now. In time he will have to accept his part in the mess and forgive you for yours. Until then you will have to just stay patient and not let those crazy emotions get the better of you...
Stay strong BI.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
