Well, was she taking it for granted because you have always been there before doing all the little things she didn't have to do? If so, can you really call that being taken for granted? I only say that because I am guilty for doing that too - I think we all are to some degree. My H checks over my car every week to make sure the windshield fluid is full, check the oil , make sure its cleaned out (not that its all that dirty - he's just fussy) and to do general checks on it, tires and the such. But, do I ever say anything to him? No, I just assume that is what he has always done - however, I am now starting to say "thnk-you" for little things like that - why? because its common courtesy that I have taken for granted. I would do it if it was a stranger or someone else doing me a favor - why not the person I supposedly love?

We all get complacent - its a (very bad) human trait

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)