Thanks Heywyre, but this is all pretty normal for me. I have always looked out for things to support her in being able to do what she needs/wants to do. I took on a big chunk of the daily responsibilities while she was in school and holding down a f/t job. I just saw putting my own stuff aside to support her as a normal loving thing to do. I don't put me aside anymore but I still try to be helpful and caring. By taking care of this I was again trying to show that her cultural holiday is not just HER holiday but our family's holiday. She called at dinnertime to find out what time I was leaving, I had a church group meeting, I mentioned the restaurant again and she said she hadn't called and had, in fact, lost the number I gave her. I asked if she would like me to get it (why? if she wanted it wouldn't she have asked? ) she said OK. When I returned home tonight I have no idea whether she called or not and really, why the hell should I care? This is where I go a bit overboard, I've got to let her take care of things and if she doesn't, then tough! Anyway, as I predicted there was no "thanks for taking care of that" or anything else, sadly it's just taken for granted (or so it appears). I will just keep in mind that I did it for family, what she does with it is up to her.
