Afterall....This IS my Life III

[heatherg]

Why doesn't your H want you to take them to the karate shindig?

H is obssessive about the kids. We do nearly everything as a family and if I want to do something outside of that norm, it is almost always objected to....and if I insist, H will go to all kinds of lengths to make sure my alone time with the kids does not happen. He will engage them in playing and then when I try to announce it's time to go he will ask the kids 'Do you want to go with Mommy or do you want to stay here and play with Daddy?' If he knows he won't win that way, he'll plan a visit to their cousins' house so they will want to go. He'll do anything so that I can't make it happen. If all else fails, he'll physically bar me from taking them just like he physically barred me from implementing an earlier bedtime.

I can't imagine that the warrior chick actually asks permission to take her kids somewhere! Is that really what you meant or was it like the above scenarios?

First of all, I didn't label myself the warrior chick and honestly, I usually feel more like a wuss. But that aside...I told him I would like to take the kids. He said no. Quite literally. I tried again tonight just to clarify that I'd heard right....tonight I just said 'what were your final thoughts on Saturday? I have to pay in advance.' He said 'I don't want to go'. I said 'Would you mind if I took the kids?' He said 'Yes'. I said 'Well, would you mind if I went even though you said that you would mind I went?' (in sort of a joking tone). He said 'you can go by yourself.' I said 'I'd like to bring the kids. He said 'No'. I said 'you know, you can't really say that'. He just said dryly 'yeah', like 'whatever'. He then said something about how I could have a boyfriend there for all he knows (H says this in front of S6 who he is building legos with). I told him that was completely unwarranted and a ridiculous thing to say. He said 'no, it wasn't'. He mumbled something about 'You serve me papers and then I'm supposed to be comfortable with....'. That was pretty much the end of the convo. If I try to take the kids, he will put a stop to it somehow, I guarantee it. The warrior chick gives up.

I've been reading your thread. I don't know what to say so I usually don't say anything but I'm reading and hoping for the best, if that's any consolation.

Thanks HP. I need all the support I can get....even if it's online. IRL, I don't have any family nearby, although my family supports me from afar.