Like Cat says you need to go slow. It took a long time for my husband to say the L word too. And quite honestly, thinking back, I'm not sure how honest it would have been at that time. I think my husband needed the distance to think things over and for us to work on becoming friends again. He also hung onto the apartment for awhile (but I didn't mind because it became our little getaway for "romance" without the kids! )
I know it feels like dating and it can get kind of intense, but continue to go slow and keep having NO expectations. Work on being a great listener, his best friend, and attractive as all heck.
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